20.500.12556/DKUM-22764 TABU TEMA - POGOVOR O SMRTI S PREDŠOLSKIMI OTROKI TABOO TOPIC - CONVERSATION ABOUT DEATH WITH PRESCHOOL CHILDREN Smrt je skrivnostna neznanka nam vsem. Ne vemo, kaj nas čaka po smrti in ne moremo je napovedati. Zdi se nam, da ni povezana z nami, dokler nekdo, ki ga imamo radi, ne umre. Pa ni tako. Vse, kar je živo, mora umreti. In tudi če se tega ne zavedamo, nas smrt spremlja na vsakem koraku. Prav je, da to vidimo in izkoristimo trenutek za pogovor o smrti s predšolskim otrokom. Anketirani starši predšolskih otrok so zapisali, da se pogovarjajo s svojimi otroki o smrti. Spoznala sem, da starši znajo izkoristiti vsakdanjo priložnost in o smrti s predšolskim otrokom spregovorijo ob umrli žuželki na travi ali živali na cesti. Menim, da s tem otroku približajo smrt kot nekaj naravnega in posledično lažje spregovorijo o smrti z otrokom ob izgubi ljubljene osebe. Vsekakor pa tudi večina staršev vključuje svoje otroke v rituale, povezane z umrlo osebo. Večina otrok je že bila na pokopališču, pogrebu, pri spominski maši. Starši svoje otroke ne odstranijo in jim dovolijo, da žalujejo skupaj v družini. Skupaj odidejo na pokopališče, kjer prižgejo svečo ali odnesejo rože. O umrli osebi se pogovarjajo ob fotografijah in se spominjajo lepih trenutkov, ki so jih preživeli skupaj. Tudi če starši niso povsem prepričani, kaj se zgodi po smrti, je prav, da so z otrokom odkriti. Otroci čutijo, kadar jim želimo nekaj prikriti in s tem se naučijo, da je prav prikrivati resnico. Kadar pa otroku odkrito povemo, da smo žalostni, da nam je hudo in zato jočemo, da je prav, da tudi otrok joče, če želi, nam bo otrok zaupal in spregovoril o umrli osebi odkrito, ko bo želel. Death is a mystery to us all. We do not know what awaits us after death and we can not predict it. It seems it is not associated with us, until someone we love dies. But that is not the way it is. Everything that lives, must die. And even if we are not aware of that, the fact is, that death is with us on every step. The right thing is to see that and seize the moment to have a conversation about death with our preschool child. Interviewed parents od preschool children have stated that they talk about death with their children I learned that parents are able to take advantage of everyday opportunities and talk about death at the dead insects in the grass or other animals on the road. I think that by doing this, parents bring death as something natural to their children and because of that it is easier for them to talk about death with their children when a loved one dies. Most parents include their children in the rituals associated with the deceased. Most children have allready been at the cementery, the funeral and the memorial mass. Parenst do not remove their children from this and they allow them to grieve with the family. Together they visit the grave of the deceased and burn a candle or bring flowers. They talk about the deceased while watching photos and remember their beautiful moments spent togeter. Even if the pratents are not quite sure what happens after death it is the right thing that they are honest with their child. Children feel when we want to conceal something to them and by doing that they learn that it is right to conceal truth. However, when we openly talk to our child and we tell him that we are sad and that is why we cry, when we tell our child that it is fine if the child cries too, then our child will trust us and spoke openly about the deceased when the time comes. definicija smrti starši faze žalovanja otrokovo žalovanje death definition parents mourning stages child`s grief true true false [B. Rušnik] Slovenski jezik Angleški jezik Diplomsko delo 2012-04-21 12:05:23 2012-05-16 12:44:27 2022-04-14 12:05:06 2023-12-30 03:35:26 2012 0 Maribor 0 0000-00-00 NiDoloceno NiDoloceno NiDoloceno 0000-00-00 0000-00-00 0000-00-00 373.2(043.2) 19130632 URN:SI:UM:DK:4BHVIV2B VS_Rusnik_Barbara_2012.pdf VS_Rusnik_Barbara_2012.pdf 1 5064E3DA0FFD69D9033EFD034C67ED98 c68b0953c0b4f35aca2a119c70f81f7ca44349374c87e25a588033e6bebf4e70 92148fc6-7c06-11eb-bb7a-00155d0001ca 20.500.12556/dkum/2cee8157-4d74-4a34-97a2-655e10eed1e5 https://dk.um.si/Dokument.php?lang=slv&id=29560 Pedagoška fakulteta 0 0 0